Letter From Abba; It's not always about you
Dear Child,
People’s lives do not revolve around just you alone.
At each moment, the people who care deeply about you and love you are going through something that has nothing to do with you.
It’s great to have a solid support system but remember your support system are humans.
Fallible humans.
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It’s unrealistic to expect a human being to be there for you 100% of the time. It’s also selfish and toxic.
You could be having a hard time, but your best friend is chilling at the beach, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
You could be trying to make a joke or have a good time, but your friend is in a foul mood.
Don’t make it about you.
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I expect you to extend to others the same grace and mercy I extend to you, starting with the people in your corner.
You talk about how it’s easier to forgive those who aren’t close to you than those close to you.
Even though it’s a popular opinion, it’s a wrong mindset.
Yes, the hurt from those closest to you cuts deeper, but that’s why your grace and mercy towards them should also run deep enough to accommodate their excesses.
It’s contradictory to love someone deeply, but be shallow with mercy and grace towards them.
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In a nutshell, people in your support system have full lives; they won’t come through for you 100% of the time. That’s My responsibility.
They would also hurt you sometimes.
When they don’t come through for you, don’t make it about you because you know they would if they could.
Be more merciful and graceful to those in your corner. I’m sure you don’t want to lose them.
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~Abba~